In life, disagreements are guaranteed to occur; these cannot be avoided. We face disagreements with spouses, family, friends, co-workers, and those around us. At times, a simple trip to the grocery store can turn into a disagreement when someone takes the parking spot we were waiting for. But what are we to do when the disagreement escalates into something in which our points-of-view cannot be heard? When emotions are involved and levels of trust are broken based upon actions and words exchanged? Is it just that simple to “walk away”? 

Being the Bigger Person
Many of us have heard the saying, “Be the bigger person.” But why does being the bigger person seem to be related to weakness or giving up? – A persona that most people don’t want to transform into when arguments occur. – We really want to “win” the argument rather than take on the stance of relenting. However, relenting seems like a favorable alternative to “being right” in something that can result in broken relationships or hurt feelings.

I can think of various times in which I had to be the bigger person and walk away from someone and the things we were in disagreement about. In these discussions, we weren’t seeing eye-to-eye and a middle-ground was not being reached. If these interactions were to continue to occur, disappointments and hurt feelings would likely be the end result. Was it truly worth it to continue, or to agree to disagree in order for the relationships not to be damaged, possibly beyond repair?

Agreeing to Disagree
What does it mean to “agree to disagree?” This is another saying that we easily use in our lives. Some say it to end an argument. Others use it out of respect for the individual or individuals with whom they are disagreeing. Regardless, it could be seen as an easy “out” to put an end to a challenging situation. However, saying it and not meaning it means that one’s actions won’t always align with agreeing to disagree. I know that there have been times that I’ve used the saying to end an argument and didn’t really mean it, walking away with varying emotions running through me.

Nonetheless, experience has taught me to see how the action of agreeing to disagree must align with my faith. I cannot only say the words, but my walk and actions must reflect these words as well. It’s not a way out, but a truth that is only effective if it is also in my heart, walk, and words.

Once I realized this, I could truly “agree to disagree” and walk away peacefully.

God’s Word
John 8:32 NKJV states, “And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” This verse is true indeed! If there is at least one verse to verbalize and to live out, this is it. Our freedom comes from God and His word; not in being right in an argument or disagreement. 

God’s truth is what sets us free and permits us to agree to disagree. His way provides the path for us to walk through any disagreement peacefully with actions that align with Him. If we are going to agree to disagree, His way is the best way to do it and to live it!