Healing the Scars of Racial Wounds

Healing the Scars of Racial Wounds

I write as a white woman with mostly a white/dominant audience in mind. My white identity influences my perspective; I encourage us all to seek out voices from authors of color on this topic with regularity and fervor. On my list to read next: Sheila Wise Rowe’s book,...
The Enduring Flavors of Family Culture

The Enduring Flavors of Family Culture

Someone may see me in passing, take a glance, and ask, “Where do you come from?” Depending on my mood, I may answer, “I’m from Seattle,” then walk away. Or, if I feel like disclosing more information, I may answer, “My parents are from the Philippines, but I was born...
“I’m So Glad You’re Here”

“I’m So Glad You’re Here”

It was another typical hot, sunny, Southern day. I felt the red clay beneath my feet heating up like hot coals. We were outdoors for recess, in a softball field, and no one else could hear the conversation, far out of earshot of the teacher on duty. My classmate...
Biracial Belonging

Biracial Belonging

Life-altering revelations are a bit like electrical storms. They thunder in without much warning, striking the often unaware. Like the moment I knew I was with “the one.” The backdrop for this realization wasn’t what I expected. There was no Oscar-worthy score or...
Review of Healing Racial Trauma

Review of Healing Racial Trauma

When you have a painful problem, what do you do? Some of us ignore it, and stuff it down deep in our gut. Some of us lash out at others, projecting our ills onto them. Some of us become workaholics, thinking if we just work harder and faster, then we can somehow...
Defend or Reconcile?

Defend or Reconcile?

My husband and I process conflict from opposite ends of the spectrum. When I’m angry, I become a hedgehog who curls up in a ball and tries to become invisible. He morphs into a loud, intense rhino with defensive tendencies. Without really being aware of it, we were...

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